Forget like a child any injury done by somebody immediately. Never keep it in the heart. It kindles hatred. Swami Sivananda
The above quote appears to have a deeper meaning…
Sivananda uses the quote to talk about the negative experiences that we often keep with us…
Some of the negative experiences we have are useful e.g. you scalded yourself on something (e.g. the handle of a pan) when you were younger – the memory of not touching something hot remains with you, and you learn from the lesson not to touch the handle of the pan without ensuring it was either heat resistant, or with a cloth so that you didn’t scald yourself again – and rightly so!
What Sivananda implies in this statement is to let go of the unhelpful negative experiences -the pain / frustration / fear /________ (fill in the blank) that we hold within us. Instead choose to learn from, then let go of the experience with a positive outlook that can then allow you to move forward.
An example of this could be of an unhappy relationship breakdown, the negative or painful experience of the breakdown remains with you, and that memory can consciously or unconsciously hold you back through fear when you are looking to develop a new relationship. Your mind will be reminding you about the negative past experience, and questioning you as to whether you want to feel that sort of pain again. This fear can hold you back…
Identifying some of these things and allowing yourself to go through a process of change will enable you to release some / all of the feelings and give yourself a freer and lighter mind and heart.
One of the ways that you can work through the process physically, is by doing something I call ‘Time Line Therapy”.
A time line therapy session is where you are helped to identify some of the specific memories in your life (good and bad). Identify future goals that you want to achieve. I will support you to walk through your timeline, and deal with the memories or situations that are painful for you and potentially holding you back. This could include amplifying or diminishing the feelings around the memories, so that you are able to “forget like a child” and diminish the feelings that are hindering your progress.
Examples of where I have used and seen this process work includes:
- When you feel like you are going around the same situation numerous times and not being able to move on from it?
- When you really want to do something, but fear is holding you back – the timeline process can help you identify what that fear is and help you to “resize” the fear so you can move forward
- You’re lacking in confidence because of situations in your past and you can’t find ways to move forward
Enapay can conduct Time Line Therapy sessions as a separate and one-off type of session, or it can be incorporated into a coaching programme, depending on your needs.
If you are interested in understanding a little more about time line therapy, get in touch for a free 20 minute consultation.